For parents and teenagers

Families

Family life can create the best and the worst of times,  often challenging us in ways we didn’t think possible when we first became parents.

Many families find that when things aren’t going well at home, they have trouble finding support.  Greater geographical mobility and the need for both parents to do paid work has weakened valuable social connections.   The pressure of social media to keep up appearances and the testing culture in UK schools has contributed to the strain.  Parenting alone or adjusting to living in blended families has increased in the UK and brings its own set of challenges.

CoachEd provides support for parents who want to make positive change in their family.  I work with families for many different reasons, often when parents feel they are completely stuck.  The need for support is particularly acute for parents of neuro-diverse children and young people because traditional parenting approaches are less effective.

Families are connected systems.  Work with me to re-connect and restore relationships in your family.

 

 

For parents who feel like they’ve lost control….

Help to get back on track when family life is a struggle

Would you answer yes to any of these questions?
  • Do you feel like you’re walking on eggshells?
  • Do you dread going home?
  • Are you worried about your child or teen’s aggressive behaviour?
  • Does your teen use a lot of alcohol or drugs?
  • Is your child very anxious, but you don’t know why and don’t know how to help?
  • Does your child avoid going to school or refuse altogether?
  • Do you struggle to set boundaries and make them stick?
  • Does your child hurt themself?
  • Has your teen been diagnosed with ADHD or ASC (or are you on a waiting for an appointment) are you struggling to understand and cope with their behaviour?

You’re not alone.

No parent expects to feel like this, but many do.

There’s so much pressure for us all to be leading our best ‘Instagram life’ all the time, but life isn’t like that and it’s hard to find help when things are out of control at home.  It can be especially hard if your parenting style is not working – especially if your child or teen has ADHD or ASC.  I have lots of experience working professionally with neurodiverse families and understand parenting a neuro-diverse teen as I have one of my own!

Things can be better.  I can help you.

 

How it works

I bring my experience and qualifications in teaching, coaching, and working in CAMHS with families to help you make change.  I won’t judge you and I’ve seen really positive changes in families where things have seemed hopeless.  I work with parents and families.   I also see older children (tweens), teens and young people at university, or young people who are finding it hard to get going into adulthood.

I’m afraid I don’t have a magic wand and I can’t offer quick fixes.  I try to see your family as a whole, not just one person who needs ‘fixing’.  Often the greatest changes happen when the family alters the way they think about things or how they respond to certain behaviours.   I have a broad and effective toolkit but I often use the research-based NVR, SPACE and Dr.Ross Green’s CPS approaches to help you make change.  You can read about NVR here, SPACE here and CPS here.

You are the parent-mountaineers. I provide the map and encourage you on the climb.

Why not give me a call on 07863 231894 or email me to find out how I can help.

 

 

I began talking to Katie at CoachEd during a particularly difficult time with my teen daughter. She helped me reframe my thinking and see everything in a different light, which in turn helped us change our behaviour and return the positive outcomes we all hope for.

Her straight talking manner is so refreshing.  She managed to teach me to take care of myself first in order to help my daughter.  Katie’s knowledge is extensive yet she manages to convey everything so it is accessible to anyone willing to listen and learn.

I cannot thank her enough.

Mum of 16 year old

Brighton

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If your child won’t talk to you maybe they could try talking to me?

Going through the tween and teen years can be hard, but it doesn’t have to be terrible all the time.  Sometimes, it’s good to have someone to speak to outside the family who won’t judge or criticise, who can help you to see things differently.

Is your son or daughter struggling to live through something that’s really painful or complicated?  Divorce, bereavement, friendship fractures, bullying, anxiety, exam fears?  Maybe they say they don’t know what the problem is, they won’t talk to you and you’re worried.  

I can help.

I can meet your son/daughter on Zoom, by phone or in person. Although I can’t tell you what we talk about (except in exceptional circumstances) you’ll know that they are receiving support, encouragement and empathy in a safe environment from a highly qualified and experienced practitioner.

 

How it works

A lot of what I do is coaching – which is talking about what’s going on now, planning some goals and working together to achieve them as soon as possible.  If there are really difficult or embarrassing things that come up or that your child wants help with, it’s safe to talk to me about those things too.  I am a teacher, an experienced coach and hold multiple qualifications in therapy.  However, if I think a different or more specialist practitioner is needed,  I can recommend a different practitioner or put you in touch with someone who is better placed to help.

I can provide a safe, supportive and confidential space in which to work things out.  Why not ask them to try a session? 

What have you got to lose?

Fees for Families

I offer a free 20-minute no obligation phone conversation to hear about your situation and decide whether I can help.  Get in touch. 

Initial adult assessments last approx 90 mins and 50 minutes thereafter.  Child/teen appointments are all 50 mins.

Assessment session

90 minutes – £100

I meet with parents or carers in person or on Zoom to make a full assessment of what is happening in the family, understand your family history and current priorities and your hopes for the future.  

Further Sessions

 50 minutes – £60

I meet with parents mostly but I am also able to meet with the young person or the whole family should we decide this will be beneficial.

Counselling or Coaching

For older children (secondary age) and young adults – 50 minutes £60

Relationship problems, stress, worry and anxiety, loss and bereavement, academic work concerns, time management, loneliness, leaving home for uni, starting uni. ADHD, conflict and anger management.

Support & Resources

Websites to Support Families

Family Lives
Information, web and phone chat for parents

Family Action
Building stronger families

NSPCC
Support for parents

Young Minds
Support for parents while they are supporting their children